relationships The First Time I Had Sex After My Marriage Ended

03:43  03 may  2018
03:43  03 may  2018 Source:   flare.com

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The reason I have time to write this blog post is that I had sex with my husband last night. In the beginning of my first marriage , we had sex a lot. After our marriage ended , I discovered that most married couples have sex .

When a young marriage ends , it is usually heartbreaking. The circumstances surrounding my marriage and divorce may be unusual, but the heartbreak I felt at it ending wasn’t. I did everything. About a year after the divorce was final, I had sex for the first time .

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“My first time having sex was with the person I ended up marrying. We met and we really clicked. I was 18, and we were both so inexperienced. We very quickly settled into a routine where we didn’t experiment or try new things in bed. It was like, this is what works, and at the time, I didn’t know any better.

We were together for just over 11 years and married for three. He cheated—a one-time thing, a stranger in a hotel bar on a work trip. He told me right after. The breakup was less about him sleeping with someone else than the lies that built up to it. He’d had emotional affairs, which I’d found out about before the actual physical affair.

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So now finally to the wedding night . the first time . We went to our hotel after the wedding, ordered By the end of the honeymoon we were better at just the literal mechanics of sex , and no less thrilled We both waited for marriage for personal reasons and had a great first night despite being a bit tired

The naked truth. " Sex after divorce made me feel completely vulnerable at first ," said Kerri, 41. "It had been a long time since a man had really looked at me naked. Not long after my divorce, I met a woman I was very attracted to and we ended up kissing.

I think I waited four weeks after we broke up before I went on my first date. I went in convinced that I was not going to sleep with him. It was apprehension and nervousness about the physical part of it. But the more I drank on the date, the more comfortable I became. And then I slept with him. I think I felt free to be more confident and assertive. To be fair, I was very intoxicated, but it was also the fact that this person hadn’t known me for 11 years and wouldn’t judge me in the same way. There was something freeing about that.

I definitely wanted to get the experience of sleeping with someone new over with. And I had no guilt about it—my ex had already done it, so it was almost about getting even. I was staying in our house, and I brought him back there: going somewhere else involved too many factors, and I wanted to have the familiarity and some control. I very much felt entitled to be in that house. But, the next morning, I just wanted him to go. I didn’t know the hook-up culture—I was like, How do I get this person to leave? In the end, I was like, You want some breakfast, here’s some breakfast, but now I have stuff to do.

I’ve slept with five other people since my split. I haven’t been consciously trying to make up for lost time, but I did have a one night stand, I dated a younger guy, I dated a bi guy. My ex still wants to be together, and I don’t know about the future. It’s so in limbo. I think I thought I’d get some clarity about him or myself or sex in general by experiencing new things, but I have not come to any conclusions. I don’t know if they’ll ever come. Maybe that’s just how it is.”—As told to Danielle Groen

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